Kim Anami is a sex and relationship coach, writer, and speaker known for her distinctive blend of Eastern philosophy, holistic wellness, and bold, body-positive empowerment. Her coaching synthesizes over three decades of study in Tantra, Taoism, Transpersonal Psychology, and quantum growth practices, aiming to help clients achieve deeper connection, intimacy, and creativity. Anami’s work has been featured in major media outlets including Playboy, Elle, The Sunday Times (UK), Oprah Magazine, Marie Claire, Allure, Glamour, Women’s Health, and national talk shows from E! Network and CNN to NPR and various international radio and television programs around the globe.
What is your typical day, and how do you make it productive?
I wake up very early—usually between 3 and 4 AM. I meditate, go for a walk, and have a large breakfast. I like to front-load my food and focus my most productive work hours early in the morning. By mid-morning, I’ll usually go to the gym or surf, depending on the waves. If the surf is good, everything else revolves around that. I also make it a point to get sunlight between 12 and 2 PM for natural vitamin D. That midday break in nature keeps me grounded and energized.
How do you bring ideas to life?
I act immediately. If I get a hit of inspiration, I start working on it right away—fleshing it out, writing it down, talking to my team. I don’t file ideas away for later. I bring them into the physical world as soon as possible and trust the momentum.
What’s one trend that excites you?
I love seeing more people turn toward natural wellness—breathwork, meditation, ice baths, nervous system regulation. There’s a collective desire to heal holistically and tap into the body’s innate intelligence. That excites me deeply.
What is one habit that helps you be productive?
Sex. Daily sex. It’s how I move energy through my body, stay connected to my vitality, and channel creative force into everything I do.
What advice would you give your younger self?
Trust the next right thing. Even when you can’t see the whole path ahead, each step forward will reveal the next. Follow your intuition, stay connected to your truth, and the life you desire will unfold.
Tell us something you believe almost nobody agrees with you on?
That everyone can. Every woman is multi-orgasmic. Every man can separate orgasm from ejaculation. Everyone is capable of high-level sexual and energetic expression. Most people think they’re broken or an exception—but I guarantee they’re not.
What is the one thing you repeatedly do and recommend everyone else do?
Daily sex. Not performative, disconnected sex—but deep, nourishing, intimate connection with yourself or your partner. It’s regenerative, healing, and transformative.
When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?
I move my body. I’ll lift weights, surf, go for a walk, or take a swim. Physical movement is what gets me out of my head and back into alignment with myself.
What is one strategy that has helped you grow your business or advance in your career?
Having the courage to speak my truth—even if it’s unpopular. I’ve often been a forerunner, saying things before people were ready to hear them. That comes with backlash at times, but it’s also what sets my work apart. Eventually, people catch up.
What is one failure in your career, how did you overcome it, and what lessons did you take away from it?
At one point, after going viral, the volume of attention and opportunities became overwhelming. I slowed my pace, which I later realized wasn’t necessary. Looking back, I would’ve embraced the expansion more fully. The lesson: you can handle more than you think. Don’t dim your light when you’re being called to shine brighter.
What is one business idea you’re willing to give away to our readers?
Your best creative ideas often arrive after intense physical activity—sex, surfing, lifting weights. So if you’re looking for your next big idea, prime your body first. The muse doesn’t land when you’re stuck in a chair. She arrives in flow.
What is one piece of software that helps you be productive? How do you use it?
One tool I consistently rely on is Zoom. Because I travel frequently and live a very mobile lifestyle, Zoom allows me to stay deeply connected to the people I work with—no matter where I am in the world. Whether I’m running group programs, hosting virtual retreats, or offering live Q&As, it’s the bridge that keeps my global community supported and engaged in real time.
Do you have a favorite book or podcast you’ve gotten a ton of value from and why?
These days, I prioritize creation over consumption. Rather than taking in outside perspectives, I focus on tapping into my own inner knowing. My approach isn’t about following external voices—it’s about guiding others to trust themselves, to uncover what’s already within, and to realize they don’t need to look outside for validation or truth.
What’s a movie or series you recently enjoyed and why?
I’m more interested in creation than consumption, so I rarely watch television or consume other people’s podcasts. I like to keep the output flow going instead! I write for my own Orgasmic Enlightenment podcast and engage in activities that facilitate my own creative process, like surfing, sex, being in nature and exercise.
Key learnings
- Start your day with purpose and presence: Kim Anami structures her mornings around mindfulness, movement, and nourishment. Waking early, meditating, and fueling her body allows her to do her most creative work before noon. This intentional start sets the tone for the rest of the day.
- Channel your energy through your body: Whether through daily sex, surfing, or weightlifting, Kim believes physical movement is key to unlocking creativity, clarity, and alignment. When you’re stuck mentally, your body often holds the solution.
- Act on inspiration immediately: Instead of waiting for the “perfect” moment, Kim brings ideas to life as soon as they strike. Her philosophy is: create while the energy is fresh, and trust the process to unfold as you go.
- Speak your truth boldly: Kim’s career grew because she wasn’t afraid to say what others wouldn’t. Even when her views were ahead of the curve, staying true to her message built trust and loyalty. Authenticity creates resonance—even if it’s risky at first.
- Trust your inner wisdom over outside validation: Rather than constantly consuming other people’s content, Kim focuses on tuning into her own intuition. Her message: the guidance you need is already inside you—if you’re willing to listen.